Forgiveness is a huge part of healing the past & creating the space for new relationship dynamics to come in. Whether that be with past lovers, partners, friends or business collaborators.
But what about forgiving the self?
A client just asked me about this so thought I’d share with y’all…
Our self relationship is the most important relationship of all, including having compassion & love for that part of you who has done things you wish she could take back – we’ve ALLLLL been there by the way! (God knows I have :-0)
Please remember though, this part of you, only did what she did then because that was the best way she knew how at the time.
We always use whatever resources we know best as the tools we have at disposal to survive certain situations WHEN they happen, with who we are and what we knew - then...
So, for example if we coped with alcohol or drugs or other destructive behaviour…
If we stayed in a shitty relationship dynamic, job...
For the last couple of years I’ve been helping women be the Queen to call in their King as the major focus of my business...it’s catchy, it’s cool, it’s clear what it is, right!?
I mean everyone wants the real deal, deep love, divine union with an incredible partner – right?
But here’s the thing. I’ve never been interested in just helping women call in their man.
Now don’t get me wrong – sharing life with someone amazing makes everything bigger, better, brighter for sure!
And, I’ve helped heaps of women call in incredible partners which makes me soooo happy!
To see women I’ve worked with, now travelling the world with; starting families with; snapping loved up selfie’s with; sharing milestone birthday’s with, and getting married to the men that they never thought existed, lights my beating heart! ♥
BUT- it doesn’t define you, and it sure as sh!t...
First, and foremost remember this... Not every man is yet a King, and not every King is YOUR King. That’s ok. Remember if he’s not the one, he’s still one on the way, so here’s some hints on how to recognise a man who is ready to be King, and who he is looking for as his Queen.
Most men want to be around a woman who makes him feel good. A huge part of this is how he feels about who HE is when he is with her…
..unless, he’s validating a story about not being good enough himself, in which case he will look for a woman who feeds this belief, but that’s another story..
A man who has not become whole within himself, will be with a lesser woman because she makes him feel good about who he is, without having to work for it.
..you’ve probably known some grown men who have chosen a woman who is yet to come into her own and wondered why? Well, though you might not like it….this is why!
A King, on the other...
What’s the deal with this culture of non-lovers?
It’s cool to love your lover (except when you don’t ;))…it’s ok to love your mum (kinda, sorta sometimes as long as you don’t have it tattooed in a heart on your bicep, right)…it’s ok to love your girlfriends (hey it’s even hot - as long as you’re a Katy Perry-esque lipstick lesbian superficial one-time only cause I was curious but deep down, of course, I’m into burly red-blooded men like you kinda way), but damn - why oh why is it so not OK to love yourself!?
I mean seriously it’s an epidemic!
I might be taking the lighter side above sure, but now I’m gonna get real.
This crazy normalisation has to change.
Everything about your quality of life – I mean EVERYTHING stems from how healthy your relationship is with yourself. Yet we live in a culture where admitting you like yourself, let alone LOVE yourself is synonymous with admitting...
I wrote this poem ten years ago as I was experiencing my own soul-awakening. If it speaks to you, read my story after..
When eye contact’s seen as profanity
And value is housed in our vanity
Can no-one see this insanity…
What’s happened to our humanity?
The simple art of human connection
Lost somewhere in our own reflection
A product of our own confection
Consensus guiding misdirection
Are we so concerned with our own immunity
We’ve buried the meaning of true community
Drifting in silos of mindless disunity
Forgotten the truth of our source and our unity
Forgotten giving for giving’s sake
Raising our children to be on the make
Blind leading blind, taught teaching take
This dog-eat-dog world will be fine till it Brakes!
Is it floods, or shakes or nuclear bakes
that it takes..
to unclothe our mistakes..
Leave us naked and raw as the new world awakes
It’s time to rebirth, reconnect with our earth
To love this great woman for...